Loving Life: One step at a time.

I have had a fantastic week. It has been filled with everything that i want my life to be filled with, fun, excitement, children, learning, singing, joy and challenges.

Cooking time

Every day brings something different for me these days, the days and hours i get to spend engaging with the children as part of our un-schooling journey are magical, watching their sense of pride and achievement as they light fires in the woods with just a flint, or watching them enraptured by live music that fills them with joy (kids music by the amazing www.pocodrom.com, check him out!), even my work days are never the same, a mixture of many different things that i love, personal training, life coaching, carpentry........ the list goes on. Needless to say that all of life's important boxes are being ticked.

I have had new clients come to me recently for both personal training and life coaching, and i love engaging with new clients, i love the inspiration i see in their eyes when i open their world to the possibility of them really being able to achieve the goals that they always thought to be far out of reach.

And it really struck me how it is all so simple, people are of course all very different, it has been different journeys that have got us here and we are therefore entirely unique and our own kind of wonderful, but change is very simple, transforming an area of ones life, whether it's health, fitness, relationships or lack thereof, a difficult break up, a change of career, all require the same approach.

Context is decisive, transform the context of your life, and the content will transform itself.

Lighting fires!

It's all about habit. Every day is made up of the choices you make, the little things that you do, whether they are part of a bigger picture or whether they are just what to eat for lunch. When you add them all up, they make up your day, and when you add those up, they make up your life. And all of these little choices will be inside a context, often ones context isn't consciously created and just "happens" over time based on learning from mistakes or unconsciously being a way that you think gets the best results in life, so whether you know it or not, there is a context, and overall story line that runs your life, and is the reference point for your decisions every day.

So to change an area of your life, you must first change the context, create a "why", And with a context for change there will be a reference, or focal point that will make the choices easy. Then with the context in place you can change the little moments, the every day habits. Don't get me wrong, big changes are great, boosts like a juice cleanse, a personal transformation course, a fitness boot camp, they all supply the inspiration and motivation for change, but long term transformation takes commitment, 

And to form new habits inside this new context, don't attempt to change everything at once. Take your existing habits and change them one by one, break life down into bitesize chunks. As humans, we can't sustain big changes, because we are creatures of habit. 

So as an example if you want to transform your health, inside the context of "i believe that optimum health will give me a longer happier life", start with your diet, but don't change everything at once, take one habit, say breakfast, and change that, focus on changing just that until it is a habit, then when it is an unconscious habit, tackle the next habit, say snacking. And keep changing the daily habits until you have changed them all, and hey presto, 6 months later you have transformed your diet, and it is a committed change because you have formed new habits. Six months that could have been spent going from one crash diet to the next, has been spent transforming your health forever.

So if you think about how your life is made up of bitesize habits, that you have the ability to change, you could completely transform everything in your life in a year. A year from now you could have the life you always dreamed of. 

People often comment on how great my life is and how much i seem to love it, and i always tell them that it wasn't luck or magic, and it isn't a secret, I've just shared with you everything it took for me to create a life that I love, that i am living every day.

Just remember, context is decisive, transform the context of your life, and the content will transform itself.

A picnic in the woods

Running, because he can.